Ok, this is a HUGE beef of mine. Irresponsible pet owners! You know them, you’ve seen them, and heck you may be one or have one living next door. The irresponsible pet owner comes in may shapes, sizes, income levels and smarts. Unfortunately they seem to fall more heavily in the low income level bracket.
Here is a great example right off the local free online classifieds. As you will no doubt notice the complete lack of proper sentence structure, punctuation and spelling of this persons advertisement. Hi me and my husband are giving away our 2 year old cat for free. His name is Nibbler and he was born on xmas eve few mins before xmas. We are asking to keep his name if thats ok. Some details u may need to know. His favourite place to nap is in the bathroom sink he doesnt do it alot but if the door is open he will sometimes nap in it. Kinda funny actually. also we raised him on drinking out of the bathroom sink tap just because my husband travels alot for work and i travel for leasure purposes so its an easy to leave it on then having someone replace his water all the time when were not home. also im looking for someone that loves animals and has no dogs if thats ok. just because nibbler gets upset with a dog in the house he gets scared and he will feel overwhelmed if theres a dog presence and sometimes he will get defensive also nibbler is a very fun loving cat. hes shy at first in a new home and is anti social for a lil bit. but what cat is. It takes him some time to adjust. Also we are giving him away because our cat is pregnant now and we like to give him away before the kittens are born just so she doesnt get pregnant again. i attached some photos if anyones interested. please let me no my numbers xxx - xxxx
This poor cat is now being re-homed because these people are too damn stupid/cheap to get him fixed! It’s painfully obvious that if they had gotten poor Nibblers nuts removed along with the female spayed there would be one less retarded cat owner looking for a new home for their cat. Oh wait, that would mean being a RESPONSIBLE pet owner…I forgot, how foolish of me. Oh yeah, I also forgot, it take MONEY to look after your pets responsibly….how foolish of me to forget that fine detail. Now poor old Nibbler will be thrown out to the big scary world, of course for free to who knows where.
To add to the insanity of it all the female cat will now have a bunch of kuuuuute kittens that will all need new homes. In a society where there is a HUGE glut of cats needing new homes, with shelters practically bursting at the seams, and a cat bylaw about to go into effect that will see all roaming cats rounded up and more than likely destroyed, what are the chances that these poor mutt kittens will find good homes with good owners who are not fucktards like these people?
Poor Nibbler. I don’t think you people deserve any pets, and God help us if you two decide to reproduce!
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Have you ever had one of those days where you just shake you head and wonder about the intelligence level society in general? I do, lot of times. Usually when I’m on hold with some big company after hearing the monotone, recorded voice at the end of the line; “your call is important to us…..” Yeeeaaahhhhh riiiiight it is. If it was so darn important you would have more receptionists taking calls and I wouldn’t be on hold for 20-30 minutes in the first place. Damn….if I could only figure out a way to charge these companies for my wasted time. I’d start of at the tidy sum of $150 per/hr. Ahhhh to dream.
Ok, back on topic. I always thought most people within North America had some level of smarts. After all we do get the benefit of free education. I guess what they say about free things is true, you don’t appreciate it if it’s free. Well, I wish more people would value their free education a little more because I can find LOADS of examples of people who desperately need it.
All you have to do is look through the free classifieds online to find stellar examples of the level of intelligence some people possess.
Here is a great example, my thoughts are in green:
torti siamese for sale
Price: $200.00
Date Listed: 18-Mar-08
Torti Siamese for sale, 18 months she is front declaw (Fantastic, this sweet little girl has had to go though this barbaric procedure). She is a siamese very nice and lovely, We don't heard her very much (I have no idea what this means? How do you heard a cat?)
She is in perfect healt (Yup, we all want a cat in perfect healt)
She is very interesting by everthing (Do you mean ‘interested in everything’?)
Cause of sale: allergy (It took you 18 months to figure out that you’re allergic to cats?)
She is from quebec, (This is the name of a province, you use capital letters you moron! You also use capitals at the beginning of sentences, with the names of months, places etc) I can bring her here in Halifax around april 1.
Call Julie only
*Sigh* I'm certainly not perfect, but this is just painful to read.
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Ok ladies, here is another example of the high caliber men within the online dating community.
Remember the lovely individual a few days ago who started getting after me when I had not emailed him within 24 hours? Well, he’s Baaaaack.
This a very good example of what NOT to look for in a potential date and why it is sooooo important to screen your men before you meet them.
This guy IM’d me. The first words off the keyboard were. “I wish I were 9.5 instead of 4.5 inches”.
Okkkaaaayyyyy….this is immaturity at its best. I mean WTF? Do you really think that you’re going to get brownie points for this behavior? Oh yeah, I forgot, I already rejected you so you don’t have to worry about pissing off a woman who could be a potential date. Not only you messaging me after I’ve already told you I’m not interested, you’re acting like a dick. Deal with it, you were rejected after 2 emails. Grow up, take it like a man and move on to someone else. Oh yeah, and maybe you learned something from the experience? Not likely, you would need to have processing brain power to do that.
As I said, screen your potential dates well before you meet in person. Email for a while to build up a rapport and for goodness sake do not give out personal details in the first few emails/IM’s.
I had another guy IM and the second thing he asked right after “How are you?”, was “Where do you live?”
Now this is totally up to you if you wish to give this out, but I would not suggest it. Also, don’t get caught in the trap of feeling like you have to give out information because they have. If they volunteer where they live then that is their choice, if it is not yours then don’t feel pressured to do the same. He told me the general area of where he lived, but I have a personal policy of not giving out that sort of stuff in the first few correspondences. I politely told him I don’t give out my location to new people when I start chatting with them. Simple, easy, polite and if they don’t like it then they are not the person for you. Respecting your opinion is what it’s all about.
Ok, rant over for the day.
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Society is f**ked up. No doubt about it. We live in a time where there are so many laws and regulations that good people are made into criminals and criminals are allowed to walk free to terrorize again. There is something seriously wrong with this picture.
Take the front page headline of my local newspaper today:
(March 12, 2008) A Chicken and Egg Argument: A suburban Halifax family fined $500 and ordered to get rid of their 13 pet chickens.
http://www.thechronicleherald.ca/Front/1043194.html
Now, compare this headline to this one:
(February 7, 2008) Drunk driver fined $700 for car crash that killed friend
http://www.cbc.ca/canada/nova-scotia/story/2008/02/07/savoy-fine.html
Does something seem horribly horribly wrong with a society that does this sort of thing? On the one hand you have a complete fucktard driving with a suspended license while drunk and manages to kill his best friend. He gets fined a meager $700 for the killing of his friend, and another $500 for the suspended license.
Now, let’s look at a decent family who has decided to keep a few chickens in their own backyard;
“Their three children, ages six, eight and nine, play with them. They’ll decorate a few eggs for Easter, but they eat very few, he said. Instead, they give the eggs to friends or to a local church group that uses them for their Sunday breakfasts.”
May no good deed be left unpunished....
Wow…..real hardened criminals there; they really deserve to be hassled by restrictive bylaws that are based on ill informed, outdated legislation. Let’s face it, what is the difference between keeping 10 pet rabbits in your backyard and 10 pet chickens? The bylaw does not mention lamas as an agriculture animal, so they can keep a lama in their backyard but not a few chickens? Oh yeah, let's not forget that they are now being fined $500 for their actions.
What is it about chickens that raising people’s hackles so much? They’re harmless!
This is a great example of a complaining neighbour who has nothing better to do with their time than to stick their nose in someone else’s business and cause trouble. I bet they feel like BIG men/women now. Wow, they made someone else’s life miserable. They brought the law down on these poor people simply because they could. What did the family with the chickens ever do to deserve that? Probably nothing, there are just too many miserable, inconsiderate, intolerant, fucktard people in the world that can think of nothing better to do with their time than to cause grief to others. I bet people like this were school yard bullies too. They have just brought their bullying into the adult world.
I highly doubt that the complaining neighbour will ever read this blog, but if you do, SHAME ON YOU! May the sharp beaks of a thousand chickens descend on your crotch and yank out the hair while your arms are too short to defend yourself.
Rant over
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Well the weekend has come and gone and the online dating zoo pretty much stayed the same. I had the typical influx of email from men who can not read, write or use proper punctuation (or anything NEAR proper punctuation). For goodness sake people, get with the program! If you want to get to know someone you have to make a good first impression. You get one shot and only one shot. It’s so much like sending a resume to a potential employer it’s not funny. With soooo many people in the market if you can’t type, can’t read, can’t write and can’t use proper grammar you WILL be ignored/discarded.Ok, on to my observation/beef of the day. Guys, if you’re too damn lazy to create a profile of your own, you have no business being on an online dating site. I really don’t want to hear that you are writing me from you brother/nephew/uncles account. I mean WTF?! The site is free for heaven sake, get off your lazy rear end and make a profile. I don’t care how much you “hate the computer”, do it. Oh yeah, I forgot, you won’t be able to hide as easily from your wife/girlfriend if you have your own profile online. *Lol* Common guys, do you think I was born yesterday? BTW if you are the brother/nephew/uncle why are you letting someone else use your account? What if the person you are letting use your account does some not-so-tasteful things in your name? Do you really want to be called to account for someone else’s potential bad behavior? *Sigh, headshake*Second beef of the day. If your picture looks like you 45 and your profile says your 35 guess what? We’re going to think your 45. Case closed.… Next!For those of you who stumble across this blog most of the things I discuss are experiences I’ve had from poorly behaved individuals. I have had some positive communications with the opposite sex and am just outlining the less than tasteful encounters so that anyone who is thinking of trying out online dating world will have a slight idea of what to expect. For warned is for armed after all!Out ~
It’s a bloody zoo out there. Trying to wade through all of the emails in order to find one decent prospect in the bunch is a daunting task to say the least….overwhelming in fact. In some ways though it’s very easy once you get your stride and learn what to look for and only accept those who meet with your standards. I’d relate it very closely to being an employer seeking employees. You’ll get load and loads of resumes and you have the task of narrowing down the tide of paper to a few possible applicants. After that you contact them for interviews and see where things go from there.
You’ll be able to weed out at least half the flood right away. If you’ve done your work properly and set up your profile outlining what you are looking for then you’ll be able to discard those replies that fall outside of your criteria. For instance, if you say that you looking for men under 35, then anyone over that mark can be discarded. If you say you love cats and someone responds and you find out by reading their profile that they are allergic then pass over them too.
Also, and I can’t stress this on enough. If there’s anyone that gives you even the slightest sense of worry or disapproval, then go with it and keep looking.
Case in point as an example. One gentleman emailed me expressing interest. I went and looked at his profile he seemed interesting enough. He seemed diverse, committed and sincere. The red flag came up when I read his viewpoint on dating, and I quote:
“if you're interested in dating several men at once or in continuing your search while exploring a relationship with one man, then I am definitely not the man for you.”
This in itself is not a bad thing at all. If you are truly interested in someone and you’ve gotten past the initial meet and greet and getting to know you part then committing to one person is the right way to go. The problem with this particular case was that he seemed pressuring for a commitment right away! I didn’t even know him from a hole in the ground and he seemed like he wanted a commitment to exclusivity. I got an email in the evening, but did not reply right away. I usually reply the next day. I’m going to outline the whole email conversation with time lines so you can see what, in my particular case, made me feel pressured, and ultimately made me reject this individual.
Him (the initial connection, March 04): Hi there. If you are still single and looking would you care to chat? Hope to hear from you.
Me (replying March 04): Hi, Yup still single for the moment. How are you?
Him (sent March 05): I am doing good and how about yourself?
Him (sent March 06): so are you still interested or have you met someone because you haven't replied to my last two messages?
Me (sent March 06): Hmmm.....only got one message yesterday? Did you send another one?
Him (sent March 06, 6:11 pm) Yes I did. But you didn't reply back to either? Have you met someone?
Him (sent March 06, 6:39 pm) So have you met someone or not interested anymore? Please just let know rather than ignoring my messages so I can move on to someone who is interested in getting to know one another?
Me (my last message, March 06) Hey, Sorry for the email mix ups. I really hadn't received anything from you until yesterday, and in all honesty I run a pretty busy schedule (work related mostly) so I don't always reply right away.
I have a feeling that we probably would not make the best match. I don't like feeling bad that someone is upset that I didn't get back to them asap.
Truly, good luck in your search and I hope you find someone who compliments you well.
Ok, now you see what an exchange can look like. I do not like feeling pressured to email people back right away within minutes of getting an incoming message. I also do not think it is fair for someone to imply I am ignoring them if I do not get back to them ASAP. For goodness sake buddy, I have a life outside of the computer! I do not sit with my fingers hovering over the keys just waiting to reply to your email. To me this person is showing early signs of control issues, and impatience. If they can’t handle the fact that I did not get back to them RIGH AWAY what else would have been in store down the road? Red flags were starting to wave around with this one. For goodness sake this is just within the first five emails! Sorry, this is potential crap I DO NOT want to deal with. If they are trying shit like this right off the get-go then I do not want to be around later on.
If you feel uncomfortable with someone for whatever reason then move on. Your safety and happiness are what's important here. Onward and upward as they say.
I touched on a few thoughts yesterday on online dating and just wanted to expand upon that thread a bit.
I’ve noticed a pattern unfortunately. If you’re half decent looking then everyone and their dog will contact you and probably will not even look at your profile to see if you have anything in common.
If someone writes something that seems too good to be true, or is too insightful, then it probably is too good to be true. This is why I love Google and Yahoo searche options. Plug a sentence of what they wrote to you into Google or Yahoo and see what pops up.
Case in point;
“You know... I was reading the most interesting article about how men and women fall in love differently. And it was saying that men (being the visual creatures that we are) usually feel an attraction first, but that women, by contrast, usually feels a "connection" first, then subsequently becomes more "attracted". I mean, you know that kind of special connection you sometimes feel... that mysterious compelling click that takes place right THERE.
Well, being the mere "male" mammal that I am, I must confess to being rather "attracted" to the photo in your ad, but then failed to, "connect" to the (luck of words you wrote to accompany it). After all, intelligence is beauty in it's purest form am I right?”
Ok, this seems deep, insightful and too good to be true ….and guess what? It is!
Here are just a few of the websites that I was able to find that have this EXACT phrase on them:
http://www.itscupid.com/tips/tips.html
http://www.pickupguide.com/layguide/p_fallinginlove.htm
http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/03_Approaching/11_The_Patterns/p_fallinginlove.shtml
Guys, I know you’re trying to impress, but for some of us out there we like sincerity. I get it that you are looking for tips and tricks from websites like fast-seduction and pickupguide, but please show that you have some brains of your own and write something original! There’s also the fact that using corny lines like these show that you are not being genuine and are more interested in playing head games instead of being yourself. Even better, drop all of the player shit and just write a nice introductory letter.
Here are some tips that may help both men and women out when it comes to the online dating zoo.
1) READ the profile of the person that you are interested in.
2) If you actually have some interests in common write to them.
3) If you think they are hot but you DO NOT have any interests in common, then move on. There are plenty of others out there. I’m sure you can find someone who you think is both hot and you share some common interests.
4) When you write your letter, be honest and sincere. A nice hello followed by a compliment on something you found interesting in their profile. This shows the other party that you not only read, but you can also process and disseminate the information into meaningful communication. I’d also be much more inclined to base your first email on something the person wrote down in their profile instead of something you saw in a picture. It takes a little more work to read through a profile than it does to glance at a picture and fire off an email saying “nice smile”. I want to see that you’ve done a bit more work than that. If you discover that you both like golf, then write your initial letter with some golf references in it. It’s easy, straightforward and shows you’ve put some effort forth. It also shows that you’re interested in the person on the other end of the email instead of regurgitating meaningless fluff from pick-up guide websites.
That's it for today....class dismissed.
It’s a zoo out there, no doubt about it. If you’re going to wade into the world of online dating be prepared to wade through a lot of unsavory characters. I’m not saying everyone out there is unsavory, but it only takes one or two bad apples to ruin the barrel.
Take for example of posting a profile. What is the purpose of posting a profile?....maybe, just MAYBE it’s to weed out what you are looking for in a potential date from what you are NOT looking for in a potential date. Seems simple right? WRONG! If you post that you are looking for someone under 35, you will get the majority of postings from people 45-50. No word of a lie.
Ok, you now have a number of responses in you inbox from men who obviously can not read, because if they could they would have seen that you were looking for 35 and UNDER in age. Now what do you do? Well, you could ignore them completely. At this point I’m thinking that this is a good course of action. Or you could do what I did….send a polite reply thanking them for their interest but you are looking for someone closer to your own age range. Of course what happens when you do this? Do you get a polite reply from men like this? Nooooo....you get the gamut of replies from self important, immature 45-50 year olds. What’s worse than a 45-50 year old having hysterics? Not much. Here are a few of the responses....remember I did not make this up.
“Age is just a number.....I have enough testosterone for two twenty year olds”.
You are right, age is just a number, but immaturity is not. Neither is your inability to read in the first place....NEXT!
“With a reply like that you certainly do not have a heart of gold”.
I do have a good heart and it knows what it’s looking for….and it’s not a disrespectful, illiterate, aggressive old man who can not handle a polite refusal with grace. You should A) Learn to read, you would have saved yourself the trouble in the first place. B) Learn to take NO for an answer without throwing a hissy fit and then blocking me from replying to you pathetic email ....NEXT!
Then of course there are the people who can not spell or care to inject some grammar into their emails. I think people forget that you can tell a lot about someone by how they write their emails. Personally, I prefer someone who can actually spell, or in the least runs the spell checker over their email before sending it. I also prefer someone who will take the time to form full sentences. Which email would you prefer getting, one like this: “hi, how r u?” Or one like this: “Hi, How are you doing tonight? I found your profile interesting and just thought I would drop you a hello note.” Personally, I know which one I would reply to.
Soooo....for the men out there. Please be polite, read a persons profile in full and if you still think there may be a possible match then send an email that is legible and shows of your English grammar skills.
One Day at a Time
Welcome to my first blog posting. I've been thinking of starting a blog for a while now and just decided...hey, why not. So here it is.
This is where I'll post my thoughts, insights and opinions on all the crazy things that happen on a day to day basis in my life. Some of it will be painfully opinionated, some will be insightful and you never know, some things may even be of help to other people. Here's hoping :)
I'll probably cover a wide berth of topics from ranging from my opinion on animal abuse, stupid people, politics to online dating...so sit back and enjoy the ride.
