A few more thoughts on Online Dating

I touched on a few thoughts yesterday on online dating and just wanted to expand upon that thread a bit.

I’ve noticed a pattern unfortunately. If you’re half decent looking then everyone and their dog will contact you and probably will not even look at your profile to see if you have anything in common.

If someone writes something that seems too good to be true, or is too insightful, then it probably is too good to be true. This is why I love Google and Yahoo searche options. Plug a sentence of what they wrote to you into Google or Yahoo and see what pops up.

Case in point;

“You know... I was reading the most interesting article about how men and women fall in love differently. And it was saying that men (being the visual creatures that we are) usually feel an attraction first, but that women, by contrast, usually feels a "connection" first, then subsequently becomes more "attracted". I mean, you know that kind of special connection you sometimes feel... that mysterious compelling click that takes place right THERE.

Well, being the mere "male" mammal that I am, I must confess to being rather "attracted" to the photo in your ad, but then failed to, "connect" to the (luck of words you wrote to accompany it). After all, intelligence is beauty in it's purest form am I right?”

Ok, this seems deep, insightful and too good to be true ….and guess what? It is!

Here are just a few of the websites that I was able to find that have this EXACT phrase on them:

http://www.itscupid.com/tips/tips.html
http://www.pickupguide.com/layguide/p_fallinginlove.htm
http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/03_Approaching/11_The_Patterns/p_fallinginlove.shtml

Guys, I know you’re trying to impress, but for some of us out there we like sincerity. I get it that you are looking for tips and tricks from websites like fast-seduction and pickupguide, but please show that you have some brains of your own and write something original! There’s also the fact that using corny lines like these show that you are not being genuine and are more interested in playing head games instead of being yourself. Even better, drop all of the player shit and just write a nice introductory letter.

Here are some tips that may help both men and women out when it comes to the online dating zoo.

1) READ the profile of the person that you are interested in.

2) If you actually have some interests in common write to them.

3) If you think they are hot but you DO NOT have any interests in common, then move on. There are plenty of others out there. I’m sure you can find someone who you think is both hot and you share some common interests.

4) When you write your letter, be honest and sincere. A nice hello followed by a compliment on something you found interesting in their profile. This shows the other party that you not only read, but you can also process and disseminate the information into meaningful communication. I’d also be much more inclined to base your first email on something the person wrote down in their profile instead of something you saw in a picture. It takes a little more work to read through a profile than it does to glance at a picture and fire off an email saying “nice smile”. I want to see that you’ve done a bit more work than that. If you discover that you both like golf, then write your initial letter with some golf references in it. It’s easy, straightforward and shows you’ve put some effort forth. It also shows that you’re interested in the person on the other end of the email instead of regurgitating meaningless fluff from pick-up guide websites.

That's it for today....class dismissed.