It’s a zoo out there, no doubt about it. If you’re going to wade into the world of online dating be prepared to wade through a lot of unsavory characters. I’m not saying everyone out there is unsavory, but it only takes one or two bad apples to ruin the barrel.
Take for example of posting a profile. What is the purpose of posting a profile?....maybe, just MAYBE it’s to weed out what you are looking for in a potential date from what you are NOT looking for in a potential date. Seems simple right? WRONG! If you post that you are looking for someone under 35, you will get the majority of postings from people 45-50. No word of a lie.
Ok, you now have a number of responses in you inbox from men who obviously can not read, because if they could they would have seen that you were looking for 35 and UNDER in age. Now what do you do? Well, you could ignore them completely. At this point I’m thinking that this is a good course of action. Or you could do what I did….send a polite reply thanking them for their interest but you are looking for someone closer to your own age range. Of course what happens when you do this? Do you get a polite reply from men like this? Nooooo....you get the gamut of replies from self important, immature 45-50 year olds. What’s worse than a 45-50 year old having hysterics? Not much. Here are a few of the responses....remember I did not make this up.
“Age is just a number.....I have enough testosterone for two twenty year olds”.
You are right, age is just a number, but immaturity is not. Neither is your inability to read in the first place....NEXT!
“With a reply like that you certainly do not have a heart of gold”.
I do have a good heart and it knows what it’s looking for….and it’s not a disrespectful, illiterate, aggressive old man who can not handle a polite refusal with grace. You should A) Learn to read, you would have saved yourself the trouble in the first place. B) Learn to take NO for an answer without throwing a hissy fit and then blocking me from replying to you pathetic email ....NEXT!
Then of course there are the people who can not spell or care to inject some grammar into their emails. I think people forget that you can tell a lot about someone by how they write their emails. Personally, I prefer someone who can actually spell, or in the least runs the spell checker over their email before sending it. I also prefer someone who will take the time to form full sentences. Which email would you prefer getting, one like this: “hi, how r u?” Or one like this: “Hi, How are you doing tonight? I found your profile interesting and just thought I would drop you a hello note.” Personally, I know which one I would reply to.
Soooo....for the men out there. Please be polite, read a persons profile in full and if you still think there may be a possible match then send an email that is legible and shows of your English grammar skills.
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Maybe, just maybe, there is a reason why some of these guys are in their 50's and still single. I'm sure there are still a few 'genuine fish in the online sea'... hopefully one will swim your way soon. What kind of bait are you using? ;)
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